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Elegance is my outward appearance; being in control is my instinct. I appreciate those who are well-mannered, respect boundaries, and know how to show respect. I value only those who are loyal, candid, and decisive in action. I have no patience for insincere flattery or empty promises. Delivering on one's word is far more valuable than sweet talk. In my world, submission is not weakness, nor is trust something to be taken for granted. True surrender stems from willingness, respect, trust, and clearly defined boundaries. I am composed and independent, with a career and life of my own. I love art, luxury, the night, and that unspoken understanding shared by only a select few. I am looking for a mature, older, single man. I admire the life experience, composure, and sense of propriety that come with age. I am not seeking someone who merely speaks well; I am looking for a man who is loyal, honest, and decisive—someone who understands respect and keeps his word. If you are merely seeking cheap thrills, I am likely not the person for you. But if you possess the maturity, patience, and self-discipline to appreciate a woman of principle— Then perhaps you are worth getting to know. Respect first. Loyalty always. Actions speak louder than words.
Female (37) San Jose, California
• hyperfeminine pillow princess lesbian • femme4butch • 4'11 but i'm never without heels! princess best describes my d/s role; im a demanding, high maintenance little girl. i love to be pampered and spoiled, punished when I've stepped out of line.
Female (23) San Jose, California
I’m a confident, open-minded woman who believes attraction is about more than just looks—it’s about chemistry, trust, communication, and the freedom to explore what genuinely excites both people. I’m drawn to someone who is confident but respectful, playful but emotionally mature, and comfortable talking openly about desires and boundaries. I enjoy a little mystery, flirtation, anticipation, and discovering the chemistry that develops when two people feel completely comfortable with each other. I’m not here to rush into anything. I prefer to take my time, get to know someone, build trust, and let the connection naturally become more exciting. If you’re respectful, honest, adventurous, and know how to treat a woman well, we might have plenty to discover together. Let’s start with a conversation and see where the chemistry takes us. 😉
Female (37) San Jose, California
I enjoy people who are comfortable being themselves and don't try to impress everyone around them. I believe that real chemistry isn't about perfect photos or clever pickup linesit's about feeling at ease with someone from the very first conversation. I'm curious, open-minded, and always ready to discover something new, whether it's a place, an idea, or a person. I appreciate honesty, good manners, and the ability to laugh at life's little surprises. If you're looking for someone real instead of someone perfect, we already have something in common.
Female (51) San Jose, California
I’m a Domme/Mommy/Mistress/Goddess…. It’s great to see you on here. I am a very strict and dominant Mistress, I am looking for a slave for active participation and meeting a slave to own and use as my property ,heart ,body and soul….Please I’m open to having conversations with people that only aligns with my kinks and fantasies, please read my bio well enough to understand what i want to avoid been spoke to rudely, I’m an independent domme and have full consent to pursue my fantasies… my basic rules are simple AND THIS IS A MUST READ!!! * Don’t address me commonly or with romantic words like hey baby, sweetheart, beautiful… (Learn the right manner of communication) * Don’t send me nudes without my permission!!! * Don’t call without proper consent from me * Don’t ask me for meet ups or one night stands… get yourself an online hooker or prostitute!!! * Be ready to commit and stay dedicated before making your mind up to DM me!!! * I don’t tolerate time wasting!!!
Female (36) San Jose, California
Looking to connect with tall, gorgeous, and athletic younger men 🤫. That face card needs to have excellent credit. No hat fishing; let's see that hairline! Stimulate my mind before you can stimulate anything else. Just living my best cougar life ✌️Interested in real in-person connections. Are you looking for a dom? I can give you a referral to a professional who takes in-person sessions. Just ask.
Female (43) San Jose, California
I am a bratty princess if that makes any sense. I am quite dynamic and can be whatever you want. I’ll be good once I trust you - I am a slow burn and need to build the connection first. Love me some praise too when I am good. Currently blonde, my natural color, but will do it however you like. I enjoy acting, dress up, role play, pet play, and prefer being controlled but can switch it up if you get burnt out. Love the the beach and mountains, ***s, cooking, being lazy at home watching tv, reading, or video games. We could have a killer couples Halloween costume and celebrate!
Female (35) San Jose, California
X - grownbitter Ig- *** I have a close friends list on there ;) Don’t get my hopes up if you’re thousands of miles away😩 **Im banned from Snap** *Not looking for subs or doms :)
Female (32) San Jose, California
LG without her Daddy… my Daddy died last year and I’m learning how to navigate the world without him 💔 It’s scary, but we do things scared! I’m demisexual (hearts not parts), but am greatly attracted to dominant gentlemen who are Daddies (obviously). I am looking for kind humans to connect with. Not looking for hookups, but genuine friendship & connection. Maybe someday I will be blessed with another Daddy, but that person will have to be gentle and kind because I’m widowed, not divorced. I’m genuinely a happy person with a sad heart. it just is what it is. I smile more often than not but cry easily because I’m soft-hearted. If that’s unbearable for you, I beg, kindly leave me alone. I am in my mid-forties (😩😂) and prefer older Daddy Doms who are big bois — thicker than a snicker woot! I’m not tiny myself, so someone who could toss me around like the big bad wolf is pretty hot. just saying lol 🧸
Female (46) San Jose, California
Seeking kinky fun with someone who's dominant communicative, and respectful of boundaries. I'm a switch, but right now I'm mostly exploring my more submissive side. chubby and soft❤️ $MrWest5419 I like being a bratty slut, but do enjoy being a soft dom at times. I'm also really into being bred/pillow princess. I love using toys! and a bit of (CNC)😈 💦💦I squirt 💦💦if you can play with me right Aftercare is important to me in all forms, lol. I wanna be nasty and dirty together and still told I'm a pretty princess afterwards. I'm hard to tame, but I'm worth the effort.
Female (27) San Jose, California
Daddy/daughter roleplay is what gets me, I’ll be your good princess little girl who likes to play and wants a Daddy to take care of me. I dabbled a bit into DD/lg awhile ago, and then found myself back at it again recently, going even further. my big roleplay heaven is you teaching me what sex is for the first time. I want a monogamous Daddy, I don’t share well. if you’re good and sweet but stern to me, I promise to be a good little girl. I also age regress so be warned but am always sexual
Female (32) San Jose, California
Just began a new chapter of my life and I'm looking to fill it with some new adventures.
Female (45) San Jose, California
Hi there! I’ve been around kink in various forms for quite a while, and found my way back into the community more intentionally over the last couple of years. Respect and clear communication are essential to me. I may be submissive, but I’m not your submissive. And while I consider myself a little, that part of me is tender and relational. It comes out when I feel genuinely safe, cared for, and able to trust someone. Access to it is earned, not assumed. My little side loves all forms of creative play, and the stories I write are a reflection of who I am when I'm able to be free to be myself. Little me loves coloring, playing with chalk, getting dressed up in cute clothes, stuffies (and making up elaborate scenarios for my stuffies), pacifiers, diapers, snuggling while watching comforting shows, and playing on the swings, among probably a bunch of other things that I can't even think of right now.
Female (40) San Jose, California
I am a demisexual woman who is addicted to good coffee, enjoy meaningful connections, humanitarian principles, and basic decency. Satisfied and fully invested in the life and relationships I have right now. Here for friendship, knowledge, events, and community right now. Something to feed the hungry brain. Interested in friendship: people who have interesting things going on, who have a quirky sense of humor, communicate exquisitely, who are grounded in their self-knowledge and accountability, and have done the work or continue to do it. Growth mindset, kindness, and beautiful weirdness.
Female (57) San Jose, California
I may not be green, but i'm definitely a wicked witch of the west
Female (55) San Jose, California
hi! I'm Noelle im an 18 year old puppy girl searching for my right person. please be kind to me as I am very sensitive and shy.
Female (18) San Jose, California
New to ENM, long term partner and will be playing solo. I’m looking for a soft dom, daddy dom, a gentle dom, someone who wants to praise and encourage me, guide me. Someone who wants to take me out and show me off and then take me home and use me. I need intellectual stimulation also, not just sex. Dating is a must, with nice dinners, cocktails, fun outings, things to keep my mind active. Curious about trying a female dom. As well as two men at once and group play. Described as vivacious and voluptuous. I’m a sucker for musicians, blue or green eyes, tattoos, trimmed beard, and very good banter.
Female (40) San Jose, California
I am 100% submissive, as well as bi-sexual and a unicorn! very open minded in addition to being your lil play thing, that only exists to be pleased and please you! looking for couples in particular , (m-straight f-bi) but open to singles as well! I’ve definitely been a bad bad girl lately, and need to be punished! -Greek✅ -Bondage✅(rope-bunny) -Verbal *** ✅ -Cunnelingus✅ -Role-Play(Daddy-Daughter,etc.)✅ -🚺🚺 Tribbing (my fav)✅
Female (26) San Jose, California
*NOT a bot nor am I located in Honduras! Do not believe the glitch. 💀 Just a girl in her healing era. Tender, terrifying, and feral in equal measure. Emotionally fluency is hot. Bravado is not. Chronically ill, deeply alive, governed by two cats and one devastatingly judgmental eyebrow. I send music and memes with soul. Not rare - just rarely found twice. Kink, for me, isn’t just about play - it’s about trust, creativity, and surrendering in the right hands. If you’ve got patience, brains, and a little bite... we’ll probably get along.
Female (28) San Jose, California
I’m super clingy, sweet, caring, obedient. I LOVE role playing. I just really love being able to make my daddy happy. I’m only really into older men. Don’t be shy to text me and tell me about yourself!
Female (18) San Jose, California
I'm looking for someone to talk to, share photos/ videos. I love someone who loves feet. I keep my feet cute and clean :)
Female (33) San Jose, California
I’m a busy woman so make mommy’s time worth it 🥱👻 Your local goth goddess with a size 10 shoe Soft dom who will put you back in place if needed iykyk ~Throne 💜
Female (21) San Jose, California
I’m just seeing what’ll happen. I’m looking for a solid proper male dom, but open to see who else comes my way. IG: *** add me. ✌️✌️
Female (33) San Jose, California
I'm a chunky, nerdy, spooky, 🍃, very tattooed, metalhead, cat lady blessed with perhaps just a touch of the tism to keep things neurospicy *** but at least you know I'll speak my mind honestly! I'm awkward and introverted until you get to know me….then I'm awkward and introverted but also your pal. Show me your pets, nerds. 💚🖤 Let's go get a tattoo.🤘 📸👻🎶: Jadedrecord
Female (29) San Jose, California

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I’m a confident, open-minded woman who believes attraction is about more than just looks—it’s about chemistry, trust, communication, and the freedom to explore what genuinely excites both people. I’m drawn to someone who is confident but respectful, playful but emotionally mature, and comfortable talking openly about desires and boundaries. I enjoy a little mystery, flirtation, anticipation, and discovering the chemistry that develops when two people feel completely comfortable with each other. I’m not here to rush into anything. I prefer to take my time, get to know someone, build trust, and let the connection naturally become more exciting. If you’re respectful, honest, adventurous, and know how to treat a woman well, we might have plenty to discover together. Let’s start with a conversation and see where the chemistry takes us. 😉
Female (37) San Jose, California
Elegance is my outward appearance; being in control is my instinct. I appreciate those who are well-mannered, respect boundaries, and know how to show respect. I value only those who are loyal, candid, and decisive in action. I have no patience for insincere flattery or empty promises. Delivering on one's word is far more valuable than sweet talk. In my world, submission is not weakness, nor is trust something to be taken for granted. True surrender stems from willingness, respect, trust, and clearly defined boundaries. I am composed and independent, with a career and life of my own. I love art, luxury, the night, and that unspoken understanding shared by only a select few. I am looking for a mature, older, single man. I admire the life experience, composure, and sense of propriety that come with age. I am not seeking someone who merely speaks well; I am looking for a man who is loyal, honest, and decisive—someone who understands respect and keeps his word. If you are merely seeking cheap thrills, I am likely not the person for you. But if you possess the maturity, patience, and self-discipline to appreciate a woman of principle— Then perhaps you are worth getting to know. Respect first. Loyalty always. Actions speak louder than words.
Female (37) San Jose, California
I enjoy people who are comfortable being themselves and don't try to impress everyone around them. I believe that real chemistry isn't about perfect photos or clever pickup linesit's about feeling at ease with someone from the very first conversation. I'm curious, open-minded, and always ready to discover something new, whether it's a place, an idea, or a person. I appreciate honesty, good manners, and the ability to laugh at life's little surprises. If you're looking for someone real instead of someone perfect, we already have something in common.
Female (51) San Jose, California
• hyperfeminine pillow princess lesbian • femme4butch • 4'11 but i'm never without heels! princess best describes my d/s role; im a demanding, high maintenance little girl. i love to be pampered and spoiled, punished when I've stepped out of line.
Female (23) San Jose, California
I’m a Domme/Mommy/Mistress/Goddess…. It’s great to see you on here. I am a very strict and dominant Mistress, I am looking for a slave for active participation and meeting a slave to own and use as my property ,heart ,body and soul….Please I’m open to having conversations with people that only aligns with my kinks and fantasies, please read my bio well enough to understand what i want to avoid been spoke to rudely, I’m an independent domme and have full consent to pursue my fantasies… my basic rules are simple AND THIS IS A MUST READ!!! * Don’t address me commonly or with romantic words like hey baby, sweetheart, beautiful… (Learn the right manner of communication) * Don’t send me nudes without my permission!!! * Don’t call without proper consent from me * Don’t ask me for meet ups or one night stands… get yourself an online hooker or prostitute!!! * Be ready to commit and stay dedicated before making your mind up to DM me!!! * I don’t tolerate time wasting!!!
Female (36) San Jose, California
I am a bratty princess if that makes any sense. I am quite dynamic and can be whatever you want. I’ll be good once I trust you - I am a slow burn and need to build the connection first. Love me some praise too when I am good. Currently blonde, my natural color, but will do it however you like. I enjoy acting, dress up, role play, pet play, and prefer being controlled but can switch it up if you get burnt out. Love the the beach and mountains, ***s, cooking, being lazy at home watching tv, reading, or video games. We could have a killer couples Halloween costume and celebrate!
Female (35) San Jose, California
20F petite shy sub — looking for people into older women + horse dildo size play I’m 20, fun-sized, and timid. Looking online for like-minded people, especially bi mature women / wife types.
Female (21) San Jose, California
hi! I'm Noelle im an 18 year old puppy girl searching for my right person. please be kind to me as I am very sensitive and shy.
Female (18) San Jose, California
Just began a new chapter of my life and I'm looking to fill it with some new adventures.
Female (45) San Jose, California
Looking to connect with tall, gorgeous, and athletic younger men 🤫. That face card needs to have excellent credit. No hat fishing; let's see that hairline! Stimulate my mind before you can stimulate anything else. Just living my best cougar life ✌️Interested in real in-person connections. Are you looking for a dom? I can give you a referral to a professional who takes in-person sessions. Just ask.
Female (43) San Jose, California
Hi there! I’ve been around kink in various forms for quite a while, and found my way back into the community more intentionally over the last couple of years. Respect and clear communication are essential to me. I may be submissive, but I’m not your submissive. And while I consider myself a little, that part of me is tender and relational. It comes out when I feel genuinely safe, cared for, and able to trust someone. Access to it is earned, not assumed. My little side loves all forms of creative play, and the stories I write are a reflection of who I am when I'm able to be free to be myself. Little me loves coloring, playing with chalk, getting dressed up in cute clothes, stuffies (and making up elaborate scenarios for my stuffies), pacifiers, diapers, snuggling while watching comforting shows, and playing on the swings, among probably a bunch of other things that I can't even think of right now.
Female (40) San Jose, California
I'm a chunky, nerdy, spooky, 🍃, very tattooed, metalhead, cat lady blessed with perhaps just a touch of the tism to keep things neurospicy *** but at least you know I'll speak my mind honestly! I'm awkward and introverted until you get to know me….then I'm awkward and introverted but also your pal. Show me your pets, nerds. 💚🖤 Let's go get a tattoo.🤘 📸👻🎶: Jadedrecord
Female (29) San Jose, California
Approach respectfully, do not be a disgusting slut in my inbox. I am a Mistress who commands obedience, demand respect and reward only those who earn it through loyalty. You come to me to be stripped of pretense , to kneel , to listen and to serve . I set the rules and you follow the. Discipline, desire and control are my tools. Know your place. Introduce yourself when you message me. Lets explore the darkest side of this lifestyle.
Female (33) San Jose, California
LG without her Daddy… my Daddy died last year and I’m learning how to navigate the world without him 💔 It’s scary, but we do things scared! I’m demisexual (hearts not parts), but am greatly attracted to dominant gentlemen who are Daddies (obviously). I am looking for kind humans to connect with. Not looking for hookups, but genuine friendship & connection. Maybe someday I will be blessed with another Daddy, but that person will have to be gentle and kind because I’m widowed, not divorced. I’m genuinely a happy person with a sad heart. it just is what it is. I smile more often than not but cry easily because I’m soft-hearted. If that’s unbearable for you, I beg, kindly leave me alone. I am in my mid-forties (😩😂) and prefer older Daddy Doms who are big bois — thicker than a snicker woot! I’m not tiny myself, so someone who could toss me around like the big bad wolf is pretty hot. just saying lol 🧸
Female (46) San Jose, California
**Taking a break from the LS due to some *** changes! I don’t mean to ignore messages, I won’t be on the app for likely a month or two. Have fun out there! ** ————————————————————— Only interested in heteroflexible , bi-curious, or bi men. BBW happily married to a gorgeous 6’5” man. We only play together. We both are tested and clean, & want the same.
Female (39) San Jose, California
I am 100% submissive, as well as bi-sexual and a unicorn! very open minded in addition to being your lil play thing, that only exists to be pleased and please you! looking for couples in particular , (m-straight f-bi) but open to singles as well! I’ve definitely been a bad bad girl lately, and need to be punished! -Greek✅ -Bondage✅(rope-bunny) -Verbal *** ✅ -Cunnelingus✅ -Role-Play(Daddy-Daughter,etc.)✅ -🚺🚺 Tribbing (my fav)✅
Female (26) San Jose, California
I’m super clingy, sweet, caring, obedient. I LOVE role playing. I just really love being able to make my daddy happy. I’m only really into older men. Don’t be shy to text me and tell me about yourself!
Female (18) San Jose, California
I am a woman that enjoys being craved by someone needing attention. I’m a nurturer with big breasts, so I enjoy a good Mama kink and someone that’s wants to be a good boy for me. On the other hand, I also enjoy a man that doesn’t need my dominance and allows me to get in a more feminine state and submissive place. Where I don’t feel I constantly need to lead and he can allow me to comfortably follow.
Female (36) San Jose, California
I may not be green, but i'm definitely a wicked witch of the west
Female (55) San Jose, California
I’m a busy woman so make mommy’s time worth it 🥱👻 Your local goth goddess with a size 10 shoe Soft dom who will put you back in place if needed iykyk ~Throne 💜
Female (21) San Jose, California
technically I’m a feedee but I’m also a bbw disabled ebony baddie🤭 I get so many messages on here just add my IG plus the ig has more anyways🙈👇🏽 @***
Female (25) San Jose, California
Messing around looking for trouble. I'm a huge nerd, and a total switch. if you play DND, PC games, and are generally a dork, we will get along.
Female (21) San Jose, California
*NOT a bot nor am I located in Honduras! Do not believe the glitch. 💀 Just a girl in her healing era. Tender, terrifying, and feral in equal measure. Emotionally fluency is hot. Bravado is not. Chronically ill, deeply alive, governed by two cats and one devastatingly judgmental eyebrow. I send music and memes with soul. Not rare - just rarely found twice. Kink, for me, isn’t just about play - it’s about trust, creativity, and surrendering in the right hands. If you’ve got patience, brains, and a little bite... we’ll probably get along.
Female (28) San Jose, California
New to ENM, long term partner and will be playing solo. I’m looking for a soft dom, daddy dom, a gentle dom, someone who wants to praise and encourage me, guide me. Someone who wants to take me out and show me off and then take me home and use me. I need intellectual stimulation also, not just sex. Dating is a must, with nice dinners, cocktails, fun outings, things to keep my mind active. Curious about trying a female dom. As well as two men at once and group play. Described as vivacious and voluptuous. I’m a sucker for musicians, blue or green eyes, tattoos, trimmed beard, and very good banter.
Female (40) San Jose, California

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